Six Signs of Workplace Bullying

In today’s professional landscape, workplace bullying remains a pervasive issue, often manifesting in subtle and insidious ways. For Black women, the experience of workplace bullying can be particularly challenging and frustrating, compounded by the intersections of race and gender. Andrew Pierre, on TikTok as @TheWorkGroupChat, is a former human resources manager bringing awareness to workplace bullying while offering effective strategies to combat the abuse. We spoke with Pierre and he shared six ways bullying can show up in your office.

1. It’s Not Always Obvious

Workplace bullying doesn’t always present itself in clear, blatant forms. Often, it is subtle and insidious, making it difficult to identify and address. It can manifest through exclusion from important meetings, being ignored during discussions, or being deliberately given unmanageable workloads.

2. Excess Criticism and Undermining

Excessive criticism, especially when it’s unwarranted or overly harsh, is a common sign of bullying. This can include constant negative feedback, being held to unrealistic standards, and having your contributions minimized or ignored.

3. Verbal Abuse and Intimidation

Bullying can also take the form of verbal abuse and intimidation. This includes yelling, threats, derogatory remarks, and public humiliation. Such behaviors are designed to demean and control the target, creating a hostile work environment.

4. Microaggressions

Microaggressions are everyday slights, insults, or dismissals that, whether intentional or unintentional, communicate hostile or negative attitudes. For Black women, this can include comments about their hair, questioning their competence, or making assumptions based on stereotypes.

5. Denial of Opportunities

Being consistently overlooked for promotions, projects, or training opportunities can be a form of bullying. This systemic denial of opportunities not only stifles career growth but also reinforces feelings of inadequacy and exclusion.

6. Retaliation and Gaslighting

When you speak up against unfair treatment or bullying, retaliation can occur. This might involve being demoted, ostracized, or given unfavorable assignments. Gaslighting, where the bully makes you question your reality and experiences, is another tactic used to undermine and control.

Andrew Pierre @TheWorkGroupChat

How to Deal with Bullying

Document

Keep a detailed record of all instances of bullying. Note dates, times, what was said or done, and any witnesses. Documentation is crucial when presenting your case to HR or higher management and can serve as evidence if legal action becomes necessary.

Find Allies at Work

Building a support network within your workplace can provide emotional support and practical assistance. Allies can offer validation, accompany you to meetings, and help amplify your voice when addressing the bullying.

Refer to the Company and Employee Handbook

Familiarize yourself with your company’s policies on harassment and bullying. Knowing your rights and the procedures for reporting bullying can empower you to take the necessary steps to address the issue. Refer to the employee handbook and any relevant workplace guidelines.

Workplace bullying is a serious issue that can have profound impacts on the well-being and career progression of Black women. Recognizing the signs and knowing how to respond are crucial steps in combatting this pervasive problem. By documenting incidents, building a support network, and leveraging company policies, you can protect yourself and work towards creating a more inclusive and respectful workplace. Remember, you are not alone, and there are resources and allies available to support you in this journey.

Busting workplace myths for success

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We caught up with Jessica Ekong, chief human resources officer at Providence St. Joseph’s Health in Los Angeles, who graciously took us on a journey debunking seven pervasive myths that often hold Black women back from career success. 

Myth one: If you keep working hard, good things will happen to you

We have all heard the saying, “work smart, not hard,” which applies to those picking up extra tasks around the office or focusing on internal organizations instead of showing excellence in their roles and responsibilities. If you are killing it in your role, taking on leadership roles in other areas can be beneficial, but ensure you focus on your primary responsibilities at the company. When you are exceeding expectations, ask yourself if the right people in your organization know the amazing work you are producing and whether you have advocates speaking on your behalf. This will make the difference in being recognized for your accomplishments and contributions that hard work cannot do on its own.

Myth two: The best time to ask for a pay increase is at your performance review

Understanding how your organization works, including knowing the pay review schedule, is essential to timing the ask for a higher salary. While they are typically 90 days prior to your part in the review process in larger organizations, you can request this information from human resources or your manager as early as the initial interview and at any time during your employment. Having this information can save you disappointment from asking for a raise when there either isn’t money available.

Myth three: When you are in trouble, keep it to yourself.

When people are in trouble, they wait too long to tell someone. The first step is to immediately talk to someone you trust within your organization who will give you honest and clear feedback. Figure out how you want to handle the situation before you seek advice. When you tell them the scenario, follow it up with a question, “Here’s how I’m thinking of proceeding. Do you have any guidance?” Always ensure you have a paper trail that helps keep you accountable and protects you. If your mental health is being affected, you can seek out the Employee Assistance Program (EAP) in your organization to get a referral for a licensed therapist.

Myth four: Every opportunity is an opportunity to fight

There may be instances to file a complaint with human resources or even the EEOC. Still, sometimes for mental health and sanity, it’s better to bow out gracefully and negotiate an exit package that gives you time and resources to find a better opportunity.

Myth five: You have friends at work

As human resources professionals, we constantly hear, “HR is not your friend,” when the truth is no one is your friend, this is a business. It is important to figure out who your professional allies are and who supports your career, but don’t mistake professional courtesy for friendship.

Myth six: Being happy to be there is a flex

There’s something about fancy brands that get folks caught up. Taking a lesser role or staying too long at a well-known company with big-name recognition is a common career mistake. Staying at a company simply because you like being associated with the name or status, and not because it serves you and your goals, is not a mature career choice. When you are simply happy to be there, companies know this and handle you accordingly. They know they don’t have to hire you at top dollar, promote you or increase your pay, so they don’t. In other words, “don’t let your employer be your God.”

Myth seven: Being unsuccessful at one company means you’ll have the same experience everywhere.

Just because you’re not shining in one place doesn’t mean you are not a star. Sometimes one company is not a good fit, or they don’t see your value. Don’t let that hold you back. You may join another organization that celebrates your contributions and pays you what you’re worth.

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Jessica Ekong
chief human resources officer
Providence St. Joseph’s Health in Los Angeles

Q&A with Cierra Gross, founder and CEO of Caged Bird HR

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Caged Bird HR is the first-of-its kind HR services company to provide employees access to independent HR support.

As a black woman who left corporate America to start her own business, I can say that companies should be concerned. More and more black women are leaving corporate America in search of better lifestyles, less stress and overall peace in life.”

  1. What is the current role of HR with regard to helping to facilitate a healthy environment for Black women? And what should it be?

HR does a lot of different things for any organization. Compliance, strategic people planning and a healthy work environment for all employees is within HR’s scope. Studies tell us that black women have the worst experience at work, yet HR has not tried to solve this issue. I think there are many different reasons for that, and the most obvious is that to solve the problem, they would have to invest in trying to understand where the breakdown is happening.  I don’t believe HR as a function is having the right conversations about many things, employee experiences being one of them. 

2. What differentiates Caged Bird HR’s approach? How do employees use your services?

Caged Bird HR is a full-scale HR services company and the first to offer independent HR support directly to employees. Employees can speak to an HR expert not associated with their company for the first time to get HR advice and strategic guidance.  Employees looking for a place to get safe, culturally competent HR support that is in their best interest and not their employer’s best interest can now get that support. The success of the business in such a short period tells us that this service is not only needed but valued in the market.

We also offer small business HR consulting. The benefit of our integrated business model is that we take the real-time data from our employee consulting function and use it to advise small businesses on how to execute HR equitably and become an employer of choice in the talent marketplace as a result.  A lot of companies get HR wrong, but if you can get it right, companies will have a competitive advantage in the marketplace.

3. We are finding that Black women experience high rates of being placed on Corrective Action Plans. The SEC did a review of racial and ethnic disparities for Corrective Action because it is a nationwide problem in the workplace. Why do you think Black women are placed on these plans at a higher rate? What can HR departments do to eliminate this disparity?

We support employees across the country, most of which are black women.  We see trends in the data, and the cases where the employee has been put on a PIP, formal or informal, usually start with employees not being set up for success. Unclear expectations, frequent manager changes in the first six months and failure to receive the benefit of the doubt are all themes we see when supporting employees through corrective action plans. To eliminate the disparity, I think HR has to be more involved and highly involved with employee onboarding. Currently, HR just welcomes you in and then leaves it up to your manager to onboard you appropriately. A high-touch onboarding experience with scheduled check-ins with HR to examine things like working relationships, manager expectations, etc, would be helpful.

4. Every Black woman we spoke with about their experience with Corrective Action said they were shocked they were even placed on a plan. Why do you think there is such a gap between a manager saying they’ve coached the employee while the employee had no knowledge they were being coached—hence, the shock of an action plan?  What role does HR play in this communication breakdown?

Most employees are unaware of how HR works, and that’s by design. So, employees could receive all the signs that they are about to be put on a Corrective Action plan but just think that is normal performance feedback. Part of the problem is that managers are not equipped to give clear performance feedback. HR’s role is to equip managers to give clear feedback and ensure that managers measure performance equitably and objectively.

5. We surveyed Black women and asked them to think about their best and worst work experiences in the workplace and to tell us the gender and race of their manager at the time. Hands down, the best experiences were with white male bosses (98%), and the worst was with white women (96%). With a white male boss, they gave examples that they always got their full bonus, felt trusted to do their job and supported for advancement. With white woman bosses, they reported feeling belittled, micromanaged, bullied, overworked and unprotected. Many claim that when evaluating job offers, the gender and race of the boss is a significant factor in their decision to accept the offer. Should HR consider this when hiring, promoting and disciplining Black women in the workplace?

At Caged Bird HR, we collect a lot of data from employees that reach out to us for support. Our data tells us that employees have the worst experiences when they report to white women, which is kind of ironic if you think about it because, in the past decade or so, white women have become the poster children for diversity and inclusion. Yet, they are perpetuating the most harm in the workplace. Companies absolutely should consider race dynamics, and they should collect and analyze data on exited employees and what was the race of their managers. The problem is how do we solve this when HR is a white woman-dominated field? And HR would be the function to implement solutions to this problem. HR has to start holding managers at every level accountable for inequitable experiences and outcomes in their organization. That begins with collecting the right data and analyzing it.

6. In 2020, the Department of Labor reported that Black women’s participation in the labor force dropped significantly from 60.5 percent in 2019 to 58.8 percent, and many are leaving to start their own companies. We know that Black women are the most educated demographic in the U.S., are known trendsetters, great managers, and make significant contributions to all disciplines and industries. Yet, discrimination and inequitable treatment cause a continuous exodus. Should companies be worried they are losing this talent? In your experience, what are they prepared to do, if anything, to regain this talented segment of employees?

As a black woman who left corporate America to start her own business, I can say that companies should be concerned. More and more black women are leaving corporate America in search of better lifestyles, less stress and overall peace in life. As an employer of black women, I’m very cognizant of the work environment and culture we create internally at Caged Bird HR. I try to create a work environment that is supportive and safe for all employees. To be honest, I don’t think Corporate America is prepared to regain the talent because they aren’t even prepared to keep the talent they do have.

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Cierra Gross
founder and CEO
Caged Bird HR